Sign That You Are Losing Yourself In Your Relationship
The moment you meet a lover, you begin learning and imitating some of their characteristics. It is also possible to begin adapting to their likes and dislikes. However it is important at times even in a long-term relationship to maintain your own identity. You need to make sure that even though you will give up a lot for your partner you remain with your personality. Without that you may end up creating a different you from the old person before you met your lover. If you are not sure you are becoming this kind of a person, read on to make sure you know where you are.
One of the signs is to have everything we and nothing for you as an individual. There are people who love to talk about themselves and others who will talk about everything else except themselves. For instance if every time you talk you only use the word you and we cannot say anything about me, you could be that kind of a person who is totally lost in relationship.
You will also know that you are losing your identity when you begin tolerating things that you would not stand before. Things you would not have before meeting your partner. You also need to find out whether you are shifting your morals from you could not stand to being able to tolerate now. You may think that is ok to choose to be like the other person but remember that you should never tolerate anything that is morally wrong. Whether you are feeling obliged to the other person or not, remember to keep good morals.
Another sign that you could be losing your identity is the time when you begin looking at your stuff as less important than that of your partner. If you move in together, find out whether you have also brought in some stuff that you used to own alone. If you find that you have not brought in any, then it means you are looking at your stuff as less important. At the same time find out whether you are now agreeing to every suggestion automatically. Under normal circumstances, people do not agree automatically to each and every suggestion.
You can also understand when you are not holding to your identity when you know there is no me time as far as you are concerned. Even people who think that they are an extra extrovert, need some time for themselves. If you find that you do not need such a time, you could be moving towards losing your identity. It is important o make sure that you can have some time for yourself. That is what will help you hold on to your personality.